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Is it Okay to Let a Child Quit?

The first time one of my children said they wanted to quit an activity that they'd begged to do, I had to think for awhile.

I have friends in both camps: 1) make 'em follow through till the end, and 2) let 'em quit if they're not happy. I've seen a child miserably attend lessons she detested for months and months beyond when she'd wanted to quit, and I've seen a parent let a child quit after two lessons, which I though was too soon.

My compromise philosophy: Let the child quit, so long as they've given the activity a "good try."

What's a good try? I give my children a specific response when they ask this question (which has come up only twice). I'll say, "After 5 lessons, you can quit," or something similar, depending on the activity and what I judge to be enough of a try. Actually, the second time a child wanted to quit, I asked her what she deemed to be enough time to render a decision, and she gave a great response, so that's what we did.

My daughters have accepted this idea with no quibbling. I think they understand that it's pretty fair.




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